Sociology - Averages

Believe it or not, many social norms are not instinctual. Biology can motivate behaviors in one way or another (testosterone is kinda powerful) but quite a bit of social interaction is learned.

How do we learn to speak? Infants make every vocal configuration known - they are a blank slate for language. People speak to children, even though they don't understand what you are saying "They understand the tone." Sheer repetition and reinforcement of sounds that sound most like the parents language bore into the childs mind. At some point there is a mental 'click' and the child starts to make associations with sounds and the environment.

As the child ages, good communication is rewarded and the childs communication skills get better and better. They learn what not to say (soap anyone?).

Language is absorbed through society. If you want your child to always speak as a 2 year old, don't let them hear or communicate with anyone older. Communication is a compromise between the participants. It averages.

Accents don't come from geography. They come from people. If everyone around speaks a certain way then you start picking it up.

"I don't talk funny. Y'all do."

Once again, the standard question.....

Is this going anywhere?

Sure, why not?

Girls and Boys socialize within their groups. Their behaviors within these groups influence and reinforce one another. As a transitioner, you miss quite a bit of that.

Flashback to the last post - voice.

The way we phrase things. The accent of speaking like the other girls is something that is difficult. You know the easy way to overcome it?

Be social.

Don't hang out in clumps of transsexuals exclusively.

Just be part of a tribe. You don't even have to be that active. Be the quiet one.

Live your life.

Things will rub off - promise. When you don't have to pretend you are someone you are not - the whole social aspect gets easier.