A Passive-Agressive Challenge

Do people really know anything? Unless someone followed you around since birth, taking notes at every turn, they really don't. People analyze clues and then make educated assumtions. For once, I'll keep this transition related. Think of transition as a scale

On one side you have all the male clues and on the other, female. Some things weigh more heavily than others (voice).

Voice
Shoulders
Height
Face
Body
Demeanor
HISTORY

None of these clues is exclusive to either male or female. Some Natal Females can fall well into the male side of the scale. So, your average person weighs all these things in an instant and comes up with their evaluation. This creates the point you will be judged against for the remainder of the relationship. Slowly, you can tip the scale the way you want but it doesn't move easily.

Again, your average person sees how they see the scale and makes their assumption. So then the question is "What do they know?".

Answer: Nothing. They have an assumption (which could be quite valid and is in their day to day dealing with most people) and they act on that assumption.

If they aren't quite sure or want you to spill your guts, they may hint around at something.

Do Not Confirm!

I am not saying lie. I am saying do not confess. Plead the fifth. Do not kick the scale over and lose any change for a re-weigh. Let the relationship be what it is and try to leave that part behind.